Although most men notionally support more gender inclusion and equity, there is clear research that men often are challenged at recognizing gender discrimination and harassment in real time. For instance, despite the recent focus on workplace sexual harassment and assault, a 2018 study revealed that 77% of men didn’t see harassment as a problem — even as 38% of their female colleagues reported experiencing workplace harassment. Lack of awareness can keep even well-intentioned men on the sidelines, rather than serving as effective advocates and accomplices for change.
Many men claim to support gender inclusion and equity, but at the same time, struggle to see gender discrimination and harassment in their day-to-day work. They lack situational awareness, a key element of male gender intelligence (GQ).
Fortunately, there are ways that men can build their situational awareness and GQ. Start by educating yourself by reading up on gender issues at work and attending gender inclusion events. Then, notice nonverbal language that signals something is not right at work. Notice sexist words and phrases, both in meetings and in side conversations and banter. Then, focus on the intersections by learning about the experiences of women of color. Pay attention to who is included — and who is not. Finally, start conversations. Ask women about their experiences directly.